nothing like it
..... I think what you guys are doing is great. I just hope that someday you can have a daughter that looks just like you. Because there is nothing like it......
These words were spoken to me when we first announced we were adopting. They hit me like a knife and continued to haunt me for years. And then it happened. I gave birth to a little girl. A little girl with an undeniable resemblance to me. As she grows, the photographs of our childhood look more and more like the same child. I now have a daughter who many people think looks "just like me". And I have discovered something. Something that only a mom of both biological and adopted daughters can discover.
My heart cherishes my first memories of a little brown leg draped over my white arm and those big brown eyes staring at my own green ones. And it also holds a precious moment of seeing a reflection in a mirror of a tiny face that reminded me of my own.
There is beauty in both.
As my girls grow, I love watching them discover and become who they were created to be. I love when they hold my hand, when they call me "Mommy", and when they choose me when they are scared. I love the memories of play and laughter. I love the times when we are together away from the world. I love the moments that we have lived together that have bonded us for life. And I absolutely love having a front seat to watching them change before my eyes into lovely young women. All three of them.
I knew when those words were spoken they were not truth but now I am now a living testament to disprove the lie. I was given a gift. A gift that few woman ever get to discover. And truly there is nothing like it.
Sonya, there are many of us that are standing and applauding you. My "cousin-in-law" recently wrote about this [she doesn't blog so I posted it on mine] and how it haunted her for so long. Though we know "those words" that are spoken are not truth - they still hurt. They are hard to forget and they are destructive if allowed to be. What a wonderful gift our children are to us! God is good!
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