nothing like it


..... I think what you guys are doing is great.  I just hope that someday you can have a daughter that looks just like you.  Because there is nothing like it......

These words were spoken to me when we first announced we were adopting.  They hit me like a knife and continued to haunt me for years.  And then it happened.  I gave birth to a little girl.  A little girl with an undeniable resemblance to me.  As she grows, the photographs of our childhood look more and more like the same child.  I now have a daughter who many people think looks "just like me".  And I have discovered something.  Something that only a mom of both biological and adopted daughters can discover.

My heart cherishes my first memories of a little brown leg draped over my white arm and those big brown eyes staring at my own green ones.  And it also holds a precious moment of seeing a reflection in a mirror of a tiny face that reminded me of my own.

There is beauty in both.

As my girls grow, I love watching them discover and become who they were created to be.  I love when they hold my hand, when they call me "Mommy", and when they choose me when they are scared.  I love the memories of play and laughter.  I love the times when we are together away from the world.  I love the moments that we have lived together that have bonded us for life.   And I absolutely love having a front seat to watching them change before my eyes into lovely young women.   All three of them.

I knew when those words were spoken they were not truth but now I am now a living testament to disprove the lie.  I was given a gift.  A gift that few woman ever get to discover.  And truly there is nothing like it.

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  1. Sonya, there are many of us that are standing and applauding you. My "cousin-in-law" recently wrote about this [she doesn't blog so I posted it on mine] and how it haunted her for so long. Though we know "those words" that are spoken are not truth - they still hurt. They are hard to forget and they are destructive if allowed to be. What a wonderful gift our children are to us! God is good!

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